Saturday, June 2, 2012

Rainy Day














































































If you have been to the Philippines, you have probably seen and ridden our national mode of transportation: the jeepney. If you are an underprivileged Filipino like me, you probably have to deal with the numerous inadequacies and inconveniences of daily commute particularly these days when the rainy season has just kicked in.

That said (and my annoying commute experience earlier), I felt like coming up with this post.

Commuting Etiquette 101 (This is for you guy in the waiting shed who usurped the only remaining decent seat from the jeepney I hailed earlier and is responsible for the 10 minutes of the worst commute in my life when 3/4 of my butt was virtually hanging off the chair)

1. When someone hails a jeepney first, never breach common etiquette and steal their only remaining decent seat in the cramped jeepney. Hail your own jeepney. Especially when you are a guy and you are competing with a girl for a seat. If chivalry is really not history, prove it.

2. Stop staring at that other commuter. Trust me, she knows you are staring and she's thinking you are a creep.

3. When the jeepney is already a bit cramped and another commuter attempts to get in, do that commuter a favor and scoot over! It's your CIVIC duty, damn it! Don't wait for the commuter to ask you to scoot over. Take the initiative (particularly when she is carrying a comparatively large camera that weighs a ton, lugging a huge bag and dragging along an umbrella.

4. Don't wait to pass your fare when the destination is already near (you had all the time in the world to do that especially when you are from freaking Bacnotan!). The other passengers are already preparing to go down and their hands are full. It's tedious, not to mention annoying to put down a huge bag, a camera and an umbrella to accommodate you and your fare!

5. Really now, this is the time to stop staring. It's no longer creepy. It's rude and grating and she's seriously considering rummaging through her bag with something blunt to bludgeon you senseless with. And no, she isn't going to change her personal style and dress down just because there are creepy commuters like you.

6. Your life's story is probably worth being written as a best-selling novel, but before that happens, save yourself the needless embarrassment and never divulge the details of your life in the thick of the other commuters. Other than those who have their earphones plugged in, everyone is probably all ears.

7. I know you probably can't get enough of Nicki Minaj's or Bruno Mars' latest songs and you can't bear the short trip without listening to them, hence your incessant playing of your boombox (I mean your phone), but really, not everyone shares your taste in music.

8. Stop snickering behind your palms whilst repeatedly sneaking a glance at another commuter. It fans the fire of paranoia to life.

Be an exemplary commuter. The next time you take the jeepney, make sure you bring your sensitivity with you.

Seriously, I should be a values education teacher or something. I'd drill these things to my students. It's a pity common etiquette is so lost to people these days. Whatever happened to respect? To common courtesy? To chivalry? 

And it's not just commuting.  

My older cousin once told me not to wear too stylish clothes as it tends to attract too much unwanted attention in tiny old San Fernando City where dressing up is usually a rarity.

Even though I wanted to be too crazy in my outfit choices sometimes (layering and such), I usually have to bank the urges and settle for something a little more normal. These days, I usually don modest vintage style dresses with over the knee hem length and I make sure that I am occasion-appropriate. I also make sure I bare just the right amount of skin (but really, I couldn’t look skimpy and kitschy even if my life depended on it, thanks to my itty-bitty stature).  But even during those days when I look like someone’s grandma dressed me up, there are still guys who would make catcalls and gross insinuating remarks.

It’s like you can’t even dress up without being disrespected. And when you get mad, they’d say you are asking for it, that you shouldn’t be parading in public places dressed as you are, that you incite negative thoughts in other people.  

Why do the prejudice and the maliciousness of the society have to cage us? Do we really have to clad ourselves in tight skinny jeans, basic t-shirts to be considered respectable? Should we confine ourselves to mundane aesthetics just because we are afraid of gaining too much attention? Why can't we just roam the streets in whatever manner of dressing we fancy without encountering Gonad the Barbarian?

Why can't we, huh? Why can't we?

I realized it’s not the person who is fancily dressed that bleeds prejudice although society often thinks otherwise. It’s usually the conformists, the people with twisted morals.

So yeah, I just have a lot of feelings today. lol. I didn't mean to subject you to such mind-numbing post. I also did not mean to cast a negative image to my fellowmen. It's just that such issues do exist and it's no longer right to tolerate them. 

Anyway, here's an OOTD post. Just some quick snaps before it started raining again. 

25 comments :

  1. such a cute outfit, loved reading all of your post too. i agree with so much of it!

    from, helen at www.thelovecatsinc.com

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    1. oh thank you Helen! Thanks for coming back to my blog. <3

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  2. You look wonderful, I love your frilly shorts! Haha, your commuting etiquette is so funny and true! I say dress how you want, even in London, I get funny looks or comments on how I dress. But it's how I like and want to dress, other people have to deal with it just like I have to deal with the way they dress! Instead of getting angry just shrug it off, that will annoy them even more!

    Carmen Ri.

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    1. Thanks for the wonderful comment Carmen. I know, right? I plan on ignoring them and letting them look on. It also doesn't help that I have incredibly nosy neighbors. But I guess I really just have to stop myself from being affected.

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  3. adorable shorts!! yo look cute too!

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  4. love the laces! :)
    you have a really cute blog ^^

    visit my blog? http://raellarina.blogspot.com/
    and if you like, we can follow each other pretty! let me know. Ü

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    1. thanks dear! Followed you already. :)

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    2. followed back :) OMG!!! You're a ravenclaw too? cooooool! i am too! Ü what's your pottermore user name? :))))

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    3. My user name is PatronusHeart127 although I'm not playing that often these days. Now that I think about it, I should play Pottermore more often. I'm behind in posts.

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  5. Such a cute look on rainy days!! Love it, Kathy!! Never can get enough with laces, right? ;D Do you have a facebook, sweetpie? Hope we can chat.

    Hugs and kiss kiss,
    Liz
    .voguish.doodles.

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    1. Thank you Liz! Lace definitely is a staple in most of my outfits. :) I'd love to add you on Facebook.

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  6. what a lovely outfit :)
    Have an amazing day gorgeous,
    xoxo
    www.scarlletgs.blogspot.com

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  7. I love all of the lace, and the t-strap shoes too! I've been wanting a pair for ages.

    I get what you mean about dressing up. I feel like a lot of the time I get weird stares or comments, especially at school. A month ago, some girls insulted me to my face, and it was kind of annoying. I think you should just dress to please yourself though; ignore everyone else, and just know that a lot of other bloggers are in the same boat. :)

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    1. That was just mean, insulting you to your face. I don't know why people go out of their way to be mean. But you're so nice to just shrug it all off. I guess that's the best thing to do since nothing comes out of being mad at them. Thanks for this sweet message dear! <3

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  8. i love the way you match it all.
    lovely blog. following you :))

    http://degeekyshinly.blogspot.com/

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    1. thank you so much dear. Following you back. :)

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  9. oh what a sweet outfit! loving the flats so much. oh, and i totally cannot stand people who blast music out loud in public transport. headphones were invented for a reason...

    anyway, would you like to follow each other on GFC? do let me know x

    wishfulpenguin.blogspot.com

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    1. I sure would like to follow you back dear. Thanks for commenting. :)

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  10. Hi!
    I just found your blog and I'm totally in love with it!
    I think you have gorgeous outfits and I can't wait to see more posts from you, so of course I followed your blog immediately. I'd be happy if you'd check mine too.

    This outfit is perfect - feminine but not overwhealming.

    Love,
    Evamaria

    http://despite-the-style.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thank you so much for this heart-warming comment. Following you back dear. :)

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  11. Hattitude Style Blog

    kathy i love all the ruffles in this post! is that your DIY shorts?

    how rude of that man to steal your jeepney. i've never been to the Philippines but i imagine i would like it, since that word is neat jeepney! ha

    talk soon wild child
    -Hattie
    Hattitude Style Blog

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    1. Hi Hattie! Yes it's my DIY shorts. My favorite shorts. lol! :)

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  12. As someone who commutes for 4 hours almost EVERY DAY, I can say with certainty that I wish everyone followed these rules. ESPECIALLY the one about music. I have observed a general rule on commutes that the worse your taste in music, the louder you must play it. We just got something called "quiet carriages" trialling at the moment though, and it is amazing (WHEN people actually pay attention to it).

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